Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Friendship in life, friendship in culture

By John King

Being the "bridge between Earth and Heaven"(as literature describes it), the fact is that true friendship could never be defined using words; us humans have always shown our limits when it came to expressing what we're feeling. Friendship is about giving without a personal purpose, doing something(or anything) for the other someone without asking or expecting anything in return. When a friend is down, the other one feels that and acts accordingly - cheering him up, visiting without a reason, or just being there. Trust, confidence - are always there in this wonderful equation named the other kind of love.

Being your own friend is the first condition though.. A person that is not his best friend in the first place, can't expect to have a friendship relationship with anyone else. That idea is from classic literature and it's true; and so is a quote, saying: "the greatest sweetener of human life is friendship"; these prove once more the value attributed to friendship in literature, whether we're talking about classic or modern works.

There are many psychological theories that try to define friendship, such as: equity theory, rational dialectics, social exchange theory, attachment styles and many others. The common fact scientists agreed on was that confidence is the most important ingredient in this equation of friendship - it satisfies the need of humans to share their secrets - but there is one big condition: not being betrayed. Once that occurs, wounds heal very hard but in most cases never heal. In the end,we can only conclude that scientists generally agreed on common sense facts - so a the theories about friendship are still very vague and far from offering the right scientific answers.

The word "friendship" itself is even used in some political speeches, as it is a very powerful emotion modifier. People are sensitive about this word, and not at their conscious level - that's why it's so powerful. It was even used to define relationships between states, although this unnaturalized the meaning of it in a way.

Since love transforms itself into a beautiful friendship in the end, we could conclude that it's probably the best human emotion there is - but that would be trying to put it into theory again. The ones who felt it(and I'm sure anyone felt it at least once) know its sweet taste as they also know the bitter sweet of the betrayal. They're both part of our lives and they're here to stay. - 15432

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